Loss and the Holidays

An Encounter with Yizkor

I can clearly remember the moment when I finally joined the club that I had dreaded joining for years; when I found myself remaining in Shul to recite the prayer of Yizkor for the first time. Hesitantly, I waited with trepidation to experience the power of this first Yizkor …only […]

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I had a family. Four beautiful children, two boys, two girls. An open home filled with guests all the time. A wonderful relationship with my parents and siblings. A hard working husband. Enough money to pay the bills. Health. My life felt so perfect. So complete. Then my world suddenly […]

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Coping With Loss on the High Holidays

These holy days of Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur can often be difficult days, especially for those who have suffered loss. These are days when we often reminisce about past years. It is also a time we look toward the future. We know how painful it can be when we […]

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The Shofar: A Mother’s Cry

How many shofar blasts must be heard on Rosh Hashana? The search for the answer to this question led the Sages to a most unlikely personality. One hundred blasts of the shofar are based on the one hundred cries of the mother of Sisera (Talmud Rosh Hashana 33b). Sisera’s mother […]

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Broken Lives and Broken Tablets

One of the most dramatic scenes in the Torah is when Moses descends Mount Sinai and sees the Jewish people dancing around the golden calf. Moses takes the two tablets he is holding in his hands and thrusts them to ground, shattering them. The divine gift of the tablets etched […]

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Throwing the Keys Up to Heaven: A Thought for Tisha B’Av

When offering words of comfort to a mourner we reference the destruction of the Temple. The traditional invocation expresses our wish that the mourner be comforted “among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.” It is generally understood that the two are connected because they both represent intense sadness and great […]

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Visiting the Graves of Loved Ones Before Yom Kippur

There is a meaningful custom of visiting the graves of our loved ones during the period surrounding Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur.  What thoughts should enter our hearts and minds when we make this visit? We can gain an insight from a thought-provoking Talmudic teaching. The Talmud says that one […]

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